According to De Alto, “It is still a decent rule of thumb to set a boundary of a minimum age.
While age is truly just a number, successful significant relationships are based on mutual understanding and connection.” She continued, “I’ve seen a few anomalies where a large age gap didn’t get in the way of a lasting connection, but often times, it can lead to frustrations and the end of a relationship.
It turns out to be relatively well established, dating back more than 100 years to a book by Max O’Rell written in 1901, and the 1951 play The Moon is Blue.
But does it stand up to scrutiny, or is it just a baseless rule perpetuated by men who want to justify dating younger, and less mature, women?
I once got with a 37-year-old who had absolutely no idea what he was doing down there.
The 20-somethings all had way more of a clue than him.
“Rules are made to be broken in certain cases, but it’s not a bad start to set some parameters.” However, how much can we really rely on a rule written from the perspective of an early 20th-century male?
The original quote, taken from Her Royal Highness, Woman: And His Majesty Cupid, is as follows: “I heard the other day a very good piece of advice, which I should like to repeat here, as I endorse it thoroughly: A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven.
Relationship expert Susan Winter said, “I find it amusing that there’s an equation for the ‘optimal’ age gap in love.Which is why it baffles me that it’s always assumed that it’s only men who like their partners young. (I’ve always had a thing for Patrick Dempsey.) Holy. ‘I’ve dated older guys who have gone in way too hard way too soon with talking about getting married,’ agrees Katherine, 25. It didn’t take long before I moved my maximum age back down to 34.Women get stick for being the obsessive, crazy sex, but in my experience, it’s the opposite. ‘Younger guys aren’t as forceful or bothered.’ On top of this, the older guys had no chat. My penchant for the younger lad also probably has a lot to do with the fact I’m pretty immature for my age – I was a very late developer so always feel like I’m a good few years behind everyone else.Ever heard of the rule that men should date women who are half their age plus seven?
Some celebrities - think Leonardo Di Caprio - take this to extremes with a roster of 20-something models regularly appearing on their arm, but do you know where the saying comes from?
While formula’s seem as though they have some kind of scientific credence, the truth is that two resonant souls will find each other (regardless of their ages).” Whether there are any rules we should follow when looking for a potential mate, Winter said, “Rules no longer apply - there are no rules in love except to follow your heart.” Cute.